October is domestic violence prevention and awareness month. Often friends and family members who know that their loved one is in an abusive situation feel helpless. Here are some things you can do 1) acknowledge that they are in a very difficult and scary situation 2) be supportive and listen 3) be non-judgemental; respect your friend or family member’s decisions– there are many reasons why people stay in abusive relationships. They may leave and return to the relationship many, many times. 4) Don’t criticize their decisions or try to guilt them. They will need your support even more during these times. If they end the relationship continue to be supportive of them, help them develop a safety plan. Encourage them to talk to people who can provide help and guidance. Remember that you cannot rescue them. Although it is difficult to see someone you care about get hurt, ultimately they are the one who has to make the decision about what they want to do. It’s important for you to support them no matter what they decide and help them find a way to safety and peace.